The Marriage Ceremony A marriage is usually formalized at a wedding or marriage ceremony. Here are some ideas to get your creative juices flowing and a few pre-cautions.
	You don’t have to get married in a church - other options: museum, park, government building (think unique architecture), alongside a body of water (river, lake, or beach), a beautiful garden setting or yard, or a family member or friend’s house.

		Blending two religions? Look for common elements that will harmonize –not clash or dominate. Consider a non-denominational ceremony if you’re not attached to the religion of your origin. Anyone can walk the bride down the aisle: a favorite aunt or uncle, parents, the family pet! Choosing classic music for the processional and recessional will always be a good idea. But most churches are open to alternatives - consider jazz, folk, New Age, Asian, gentle rock or whatever your musical passion. If you’re thinking Rap or Heavy Metal – err – think again.
	Music during the wedding ceremony can seem long – even the short ones. The bride and groom may be involved in the ceremonial activities during these songs, but the wedding party is not. Keep music other than processional and recessional to a minimum. Include a memorial prayer or recognition for anyone whose recent passing has had an emotional impact on the wedding party.

	If you are writing your own vows, let the minister look it over. This eliminates references that may be understood only by the couple or not go over well with your guests. Another idea as you commit, write a short paragraph about how you first met or the moment you knew that he or she was the one. You can read them to each other before the vows or even have the minister read them.
If you have very special small children in the ceremony you can include them by giving them rings, bracelets or necklaces after the ring exchange.
	Having lots of candles may add warmth and feeling to the ceremony. But don't light a unity candle or other candles during outdoor ceremonies – unless you’re sure you’ll be okay if they blow out. Here’s a variation on the unity candle – combine sand. Choose a decorative clear vase. The bride and groom would simultaneously pour different colored sand into the vase – symbolizing unity – a forever keepsake.